Things are in transition at our house again.
Next week our son Grant graduates from St. Louis University and he’s moving to New York City, where he’ll start his new job in public relations on June 4. It seems like last month – no last week – that I wrote this post about his college orientation. The fastest four years ever!
I’m feeling all the things about him heading to NYC. Excited. Amazed. And…not going to lie…sad. I like my people nearby.
Our whole family spent Easter with my parents in Florida and as we were headed home we said goodbye to Grant at our airport gate, as we were flying home to Kansas City, and he was flying back to school in St. Louis.
I started crying, like really ugly crying, as I hugged him goodbye and didn’t stop until we had been on the plane for about 20 minutes. I apologized to the woman sitting next to me. She understood, she told me. She had college-aged sons too.
I couldn’t understand why I was taking this so hard because we were going to be seeing Grant in six weeks at his graduation. But I think it was knowing that he wasn’t coming back “home” after graduation that had me feeling this way.
Here’s the thing: you think that your kids are “leaving home” when they head off to college like it’s one, solitary event. But, in fact, they leave home in a lot of different ways during those years.
The first time they don’t come home for a school break.
The year they decide to stay at school for the summer.
When they start referring to school as “home.” (That one really stings.)
And, finally, when they really, truly leave home by going off on their own.
It’s good that this leaving happens little by little I think, but you’re never really prepared for the next piece of it.
Listen, it’s all good. Grant’s dream was to go to NYC after graduation and I am so proud and so happy that he made it happen. (Also, I’ve already checked, and Southwest has a direct flight from KC to NYC every day.)
Since this is a personal finance blog, I feel I should say that yes, Grant understands that living in NYC is incredibly expensive. (People often feel compelled to tell us this, like they think maybe he – or we – hadn’t heard.)
Also, I just booked our airfare and hotel for our first trip to NYC and it’s super expensive to visit there too. The other times we’ve gone to New York it’s been at least partially on someone else’s dime (a trip Tom earned through his business or this little adventure) so I’m going to have to research inexpensive ways to stay there. (New Yorkers or parents of New Yorkers, send all the advice!)
On the upside, this will give me lots of good blog fodder. Also…we’re done paying for college!
That’s what’s rocking our world these days. What’s going on in yours?